It has been said that
"It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you aren't."Yet life sometimes presents a third scenario according to which one is hated for who or what one isn't, e.g. through caricatural character assassinations and inaccurate judgements and jibes at one's person based in the self-loathing of the fearful ignorant.
And indeed a fourth scenario presents itself in being loved for who/what one is, which is of course the most pleasant outcome of the four and the ideal basis for friendship and romantic union.